Don’t give a damn: 5 ways to crush your inhibitions

One of the biggest goal killers and opportunity killers are your own inhibitions.

Your concerns about what other people might think, your worries about failure or embarrassment, and your doubts are paralyzing you.

They’re keeping you trapped in a cocoon of mediocrity.

You won’t be able to escape until well; you don’t give a damn about what other people will think, of failure, or of some other repercussion.

To help you break out of your cocoon, here are 5 ways to crush your inhibitions.

1. Ask yourself: What’s the worst that could happen?

When your inhibitions are getting out of control and forcing your mind to create all these minute concerns that add up and make you more and more nervous, you’ve got to stop for a second. Think and then focus on what could possibly be the worst thing to happen. More often than not, it won’t actually be a big deal.

For example; a lot of people are reluctant to ask successful individuals questions or for help because they fear what the person will say. And when it comes down to it, the worst they can say is “no.” Getting a “no” is often frustrating, but it’s not the end of the world.

2. Ask yourself: What’s the best that could happen?

Now that you’ve thought about the negatives, it’s time to focus more on the positives.

To motivate yourself beyond your inhibitions the best question you should consistently ask yourself is; “What’s the best that could happen?”

It could be an advancement in your career. You could make a new friend. And your life can change in a great way.

But no matter what the benefits are, pushing pass your inhibitions is almost always going to be more powerful than the negative circumstances that could arise.

3. Assess your “audience”

Embarrassment and wondering what other people might think is probably the biggest inhibitor for most people. It was for me, and unfortunately sometimes I still find myself fighting with it as it tries to hold me back. What has helped me a lot though is assessing my “audience” or the critics, friends and family, and strangers that may see what I’m doing or saying.

I usual assess them by asking these few questions:

- Where is their cynicism and negativity coming from?

- Are they jealous?

- Do they have their own insecurities?

- Will I ever see these people again?

4. Know you created your inhibitions

Throughout life, people criticized you and you’ve felt the taste of failure, but you’ve let those experiences fester in your mind and they’ve infected you with inhibition.

Knowing that you’re the one who created them will help you get over YOUR inhibitions.

5. Don’t give a damn

We have to stop caring so much about what other people think especially those with mediocre mindsets.

We have one shot at this thing we call “life” and worrying about what others might think and say is a waste of time. It keeps us from being ourselves and from living.

So in the end, give a damn about your life and stop giving a damn about what people may think and say of your aspirations.

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Body & Soul | June 8th, 2009 | Written by Andrew Galasetti