Comments on: How to fix fatherhood in America http://www.lyved.com/family/how-to-fix-fatherhood-in-america/ Sun, 14 Mar 2010 15:23:04 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Andrew Galasetti http://www.lyved.com/family/how-to-fix-fatherhood-in-america/comment-page-1/#comment-8191 Andrew Galasetti Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:56:57 +0000 http://www.lyved.com/?p=2580#comment-8191 Hey Randy, Sorry, your comment got tossed in the spam section. Glad you liked this article and topic. And glad to see that you're helping bring the topic to light as well. -Andrew Hey Randy,

Sorry, your comment got tossed in the spam section.

Glad you liked this article and topic. And glad to see that you’re helping bring the topic to light as well.

-Andrew

]]> By: Andrew Galasetti http://www.lyved.com/family/how-to-fix-fatherhood-in-america/comment-page-1/#comment-8186 Andrew Galasetti Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:54:23 +0000 http://www.lyved.com/?p=2580#comment-8186 Hi "SolomonSez", Thanks for bringing this side of the issue forward. I also believe that the concept of visitations is broken. It just doesn't seem to work out right for the two parents and children involved. -Andrew Hi “SolomonSez”,

Thanks for bringing this side of the issue forward.

I also believe that the concept of visitations is broken. It just doesn’t seem to work out right for the two parents and children involved.

-Andrew

]]> By: SolomonSez http://www.lyved.com/family/how-to-fix-fatherhood-in-america/comment-page-1/#comment-8183 SolomonSez Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:44:59 +0000 http://www.lyved.com/?p=2580#comment-8183 It is hypocritical or at least nonsensical for anyone to 'preach', suggest policy changes, or exhort others to "think differently" about fatherhood, unless one is ALSO demanding that our divorce courts cease handing out ANY "parenting-unfriendly visitation schedules" (or 'parenting schedules' as they are sometimes called). Those schedules, typified as "every other weekend overnights throughout the school year" are not only damaging to children, but they act as a social statement by our courts on the value of fatherhood (since it is presumed, and is largely true, that 90% of those impacted by these schedules are divorced fathers). In effect, our courts' presumptions on what constitutes a reasonable balance in the parenting schedules of two divorcing parents, is in effect a 'default value' for fatherhood in America. Organizations like the Children's Rights Council have worked hard over the last 30 years to reform these court presumptions (called 'protocols' in many states). But where are all those claiming to be concerned about fatherhood, coming out in support of those reforms? It is hypocritical or at least nonsensical for anyone to ‘preach’, suggest policy changes, or exhort others to “think differently” about fatherhood, unless one is ALSO demanding that our divorce courts cease handing out ANY “parenting-unfriendly visitation schedules” (or ‘parenting schedules’ as they are sometimes called). Those schedules, typified as “every other weekend overnights throughout the school year” are not only damaging to children, but they act as a social statement by our courts on the value of fatherhood (since it is presumed, and is largely true, that 90% of those impacted by these schedules are divorced fathers).

In effect, our courts’ presumptions on what constitutes a reasonable balance in the parenting schedules of two divorcing parents, is in effect a ‘default value’ for fatherhood in America.

Organizations like the Children’s Rights Council have worked hard over the last 30 years to reform these court presumptions (called ‘protocols’ in many states). But where are all those claiming to be concerned about fatherhood, coming out in support of those reforms?

]]> By: Randy http://www.lyved.com/family/how-to-fix-fatherhood-in-america/comment-page-1/#comment-8165 Randy Thu, 02 Jul 2009 21:31:06 +0000 http://www.lyved.com/?p=2580#comment-8165 Hi Andrew, Thanks for helping to bring more attention to this major problem in our society. Unfortunately, I have found that most men are like us, they have a difficult time giving to their children what they did not receive themselves. In other words, men can not give out of a "void" in their own life. My story is similar to yours, (see http://thedashguy.com/blog/about/). Therefore; I am now sharing the things I have learned with other men to try and break the "cycle" of fatherlessness in our communities. Keep up the good work!! Randy Clark The "DASH" Guy randyclark@thedashguy.com www.thedashguy.com Hi Andrew,

Thanks for helping to bring more attention to this major problem in our society.

Unfortunately, I have found that most men are like us, they have a difficult time giving to their children what they did not receive themselves. In other words, men can not give out of a “void” in their own life.

My story is similar to yours,
(see http://thedashguy.com/blog/about/).

Therefore; I am now sharing the things I have learned with other men to try and break the “cycle” of fatherlessness in our communities.

Keep up the good work!!

Randy Clark
The “DASH” Guy
randyclark@thedashguy.com
http://www.thedashguy.com

]]> By: Andrew Galasetti http://www.lyved.com/family/how-to-fix-fatherhood-in-america/comment-page-1/#comment-8129 Andrew Galasetti Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:50:44 +0000 http://www.lyved.com/?p=2580#comment-8129 Education and positive influence is the biggest and best solution. There really can't be any laws that force people to be better parents or to be there for their kids. It has been something that's taught and people need to be lead by example. -Andrew Education and positive influence is the biggest and best solution. There really can’t be any laws that force people to be better parents or to be there for their kids. It has been something that’s taught and people need to be lead by example.

-Andrew

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