Your answers were so honest. I really loved what you said in number 32: “32) I live for the moment these days (so afterlife or not, Life is what matters)”

And I’m really glad that you understood that though the questions are very difficult, they’re meant to help and bring positivity.

Thanks again for the comments! Talk to you later,

-Andrew

1) I’m not motivated enough.
2) Sometimes, but I can also be awfully nasty, and sometimes there’s pretend-nice to prove to others (and myself) that I’m being nice.
3) Yeah, right now I really want to answer these questions. But apart from that, I’ve just begun doing things I like (I dont know if there’s just one thing I wanna do)
4) My talents, my (sometimes) ability to think things through, and being able to live with wonder sometimes, despite everything
5) Self-confidence, peace, and self-sufficiency
6)I try to be mostly, but sometimes it again becomes like I’m pretending I;m being honest (to myself and others) when I’m not
7) Rarely. Mostly I’m talking too much (and hearing but not listening). Something I need to work on, but my self-obsession and over-analysis keeps me from it.
Yes, when it’s something like writing, or drawing, or something I really, really love. But I don’t know if that’s hard enough.
9) Sometimes. The problem is I do help but sometimes at the back of my head I’m thinking, ‘Look, how helpful I am’ or I want the person to like/need me.
10)Lack of confidence, getting off my ass,preaching without leading by example, and hurting myself by stupid talk about myself
11) Yes, when I’ve felt hurt or I wanted to give it ‘back’ but then I felt bad and the cycle continued.
12) A lot. But less than I used to some years back.
13) I don’t know. I hope to get somewhere. And I hope, light at the end of the tunnel, or a green meadow with lots of sunshine.
14) Yes, more than I used to before
15) Yes, again, more than I have before, but again, opportunities also meant committing, and I’m not sure I’m good enough for it.
16) Yes I do. (But mostly I make it not so apparent by a lot of rudeness and ruthlessness)
17) Yes, but I do not really ‘listen’.
18) I try to be and try to keep myself open to ideas (but my ex-bf says I need to be more open-minded), but maybe I need to work on it more
19) NOT at all. But I definitely hope to.Just enough to stop me flipping over into cynicism once again.
20) A lot.
21) Not really. Afraid of being inefficient. And falling while everyone keeps on with what they’re doing.
22) Don’t know. Maybe to stop being afraid and reach out with all I have.
23) Losing my mind.
24) Thinking too much about it might make me lose it. For the past few years this was my main fear but then I realized I need to stop obsessing over it.
25) Sometimes excessively, and sometimes not.
26) No.
27) That I do not do enough for myself, do not know myself very well, and do not know others well either, and have to depend on them to tell me who I am.
28) Quite a lot. By asking too many questions. Or badgering. Or hankering for approval.
29) Reaching out, touching people’s lives, making a difference with my talents, understanding myself enough to be at peace and make others feel at peace.
30) Everyday these days I try very hard to be. Previously not.
31) Have tendencies that way, yes.
32) I live for the moment these days (so afterlife or not, Life is what matters)
33) YES! Very much so! For better, usually. Circumstantial and serendipitious. But there it is!
34) Talk a little less, listen a bit more, use and understand my talents without being scared of them or about the fact that I would have to do something about them/or hankering for people to approve. Going out and doing my own thing.
35) Fallen in love for all the wrong reasons (some of which still feel right)
36) Sometimes, well, mostly.
37) Sometimes, about food.
38) Nowadays I’m loving myself, but I dont wanna get stuck there.
39) God. And tell him I;m glad that everything happens for a reason.
40) Timbucktoo. Paris. New York. Mumbai
41) That I can think, and think, and articulate that thinking. And that I took some opportunities recently.
42) Too much. I’m afraid.
43) Writing, creating, drawing, loving music, loving life, and sharing
44) I’m just beginning to. But I want to get out of ‘writing/drawing for others, and only do it for myself.
45) Anything creative, thinking creative thoughts, lots of interesting conversation, good music, sunshine, APPROVAL.
46) Not getting approval, people not sharing, and children not getting to enjoy their childhood
47) Stubborn attitudes, close-mindedness, blinkered vision, religious fundamentalists
48) Slightly more than I used to be
49) I’m OK, more or less.
50) Getting over someone and moving on (still is tough)
51) When I was a very young child and enjoyed without over-analysis.
52) Very.
53) Went to meet my ex-bf by plane in a different city after lying to my folks. More recently, participating in a beginner’s dance workshop for a day.
54) Live, live, and more live! Backpack on my own.
55) A lot.
56) That I did not take up art seriously when I had the opportunity, because I did not believe I could do it.
57) Almost everyday, something impacts my life and touches it in some way. Like this blog But the biggest impact was going to university. And then after that, the three-year relationship with my ex-bf. Sometimes abusive, sometimes not. I think I emerged stronger from it.
58) My ex-bf. By his teasing, negative comments, or critical attitude, or self-complacent smugness, he pushed me do exactly those things he said I had lacking in me.And made me explore myself more than I had till then.
59) Not much. But nowadays I’m beginning to stand up for what I like and not change the opinion despite what people I like might think.
60) I think so.
61) Yes. Slowly getting over them. Healing in the process, hopefully. Grudges against my folks.
62) Yes. (How much I absorb, I don’t know)
63) I’m scared mostly of doing that, but when I do, I’m glad!
64) No
65) Yes
66) Yes, changing that very slowly, bit by bit
67) Yes, others affect me a lot (positively and negatively too). Luckily I’ve had quite a few positive influences in my life. But yes, situations and people get to me very fast.
68) I’m trying to.
69) Yes, mostly.
70) Yes
71) YES, more these days!
72) Trying to surround myself with positive energy as much as possible!
73) Yes I do.
74) Too many, but do not reach deep, or are just steps away from being really meaningful.
75) When will I stop being afraid, stop craving approval, and become really self-sufficient? And find peace? And use my talents to the max? And live joyfully without depending on talents as a crutch?

These were all very difficult questions to answer, but I hope tnot to be depressed by answering them. In fact some of my answers, such as in 71. and 72. (especially 71, which I used to do so little) made me quite happy! And Jayne’s plan is so beautiful, I’ll be using it. Thanks to you for writing, and thanks, Jayne, for sharing your plan.

It’s my pleasure to answer readers’ posts. Readers have this site what it is and I think I should at least try to respond to everyone.

Thanks for the encouragement and compliments

-Andrew

The 75 questions are excellent questions, the fact that you take time out of your day to answer to everyone who makes a post, give them words of encouragement, and help them really shows your true character. I have no doubt you will be successful in anything you want to accomplish and put you mind too.

Keep up the good work buddy!!

Here’s two other posts that have some great questions. I hope you enjoy them too!

http://www.lyved.com/body_soul/what-do-you-want-on-your-headstone/

http://www.lyved.com/body_soul/what-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow/

-Andrew