The Mistakes of Making Mistakes
From the young to the old, we all make mistakes. From big ones to small ones, it’s part of being human.
Making mistakes is inevitable, but there are ways you can come out a better person by avoiding the additional mistakes we often make after realizing we did something wrong.
These are the mistakes of making mistakes.
Not forgiving yourself
When we make a mistake and realize it; to make things better we often seek forgiveness from others and from a higher power. But you may be missing the most important person; yourself.
It is extremely important to attempt to heal the pain you may have caused someone else, but you shouldn’t have to live in pain the rest of your life either. If others can find forgiveness and move forward, then you should too.
How do you forgive yourself?
- Look at where you were in life and in that moment when you made the mistake. Was that really how you act? Was it really you?
- Don’t look for excuses when looking at where you were, look for reasons that you’ll do better in the future and learn from your mistakes.
- Be patient – It’s going to take time and work to learn from mistakes and reach self-forgiveness.
Blowing things out of proportion
From time to time, we all get hung up on one mistake that we forget to look at the bigger picture. Look at your entire road in life and focus on the positives of yourself. You may find that your mistake was a small bump or pot hole in the road.
Feeling you’re alone
As I wrote earlier, we all make mistakes. There’s not one person alive today who can say they’ve never done something stupid or wrong. There are however, plenty of people who think they’re better than others and love to point out the flaws of others as if they’re perfect.
Considering giving up as a solution
Giving up can take the form of refusing to learn from your mistakes and believing the mistakes define you, to the extreme form of giving up; suicide.
Giving up should not be a solution for you because it doesn’t accomplish anything. If you want to “fix” the past, the best thing to do is have a better future.
Thinking that your flaws make you a bad person
It’s not necessarily the flaws that make a bad person, but the lack of realization, lack of remorse, and the refusal to learn from the mistake and avoid it in the future.
Considering all mistakes, “mistakes”
Sometimes they happen for a reason and many times you can give them reason.
These are just a few of the common mistakes we make after we’ve made a mistake. So what are some personal mistakes you’ve made after making a mistake? Or what are some you’ve seen others do? Please share in the comments below so we can all learn.
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I say if you’re gonna fail and make mistakes then do them in style and don’t work…like buzz used to say, this isn’t flying, it’s falling with style!
Very true Amit. Many times you can utilize the mistakes for something beneficial.
-Andrew
Hi,
Mistakes are the secret of success. Mistake means learning. with learning how can we go to our targets.
Niluka
Very true Niluka!
-Andrew
What about when you have made the mistake to many times over? You know you want to change, be better, not hurt your family but it seems one cannot stop repeating the same mistake.
Hi April,
I know how frustrating it is when you make the same mistake over and over and over again but can’t help it. Sometimes it takes a significant emotional event to force us or make us want to change. Dr. Morris Massey talks a lot about this concept and is worth checking out.
I also think that we make the same mistake over and over again until we learn the hidden lesson or meaning of it. So perhaps you learn other things but you’re missing the main message and therefore keep making the mistake.
Hope this gave you some things to think about April!
Thanks for writing in,
-Andrew