What do you think is the single most important element to getting things done, living the life you want, and accomplishing goals? It’s ACTION. It’s getting off your ass and going for it!
You can dream, you can talk, and you can plan, but nothing is going to happen until you take that first step. It’s the difference between a sayer and a doer. It’s the difference between change and remaining the same. And most importantly, it’s the difference between living your life the way you want and being forced to live it in another way.
Firstly, you need to throw out the many misconceptions that you’ve grown to believe over the years. Those are:
Secrets – There are absolutely no secrets that pertain to accomplishing goals, achieving success, or living the life you desire. You know that it takes persistence, patience, hard work, positivity, passion, and focus. Most people just want to deny this fact and instead pursue finding the easy way (like get-rich-quick schemes).
Time – Time can be very discouraging and can create its own misconceptions. There’s always seemingly overnight success stories that make people believe they can take one step toward success and the next day they’ll be rich and famous. But these stories leave out the parts about all the frustrations and the hard work that went into the successful result. They leave it out because no one wants to read it.
The other common misconception relating to time is that accomplishing goals and change takes a long time. It may seem like a contradiction to what was just stated. Sure, it doesn’t happen overnight but achieving change and goals doesn’t take that long. You’ll grumble at that statement now, but when you look back at it in hindsight after you’ve achieved some goals, you’ll laugh and know it’s true, that it didn’t take that long. It’s because life is short.
Money – I’ve said it a thousand times and I’ll keep saying it: you do not need a lot of money to turn your dreams into reality and become successful. I founded Lyved with just $14.14 (Yes! It cost that exact amount, with the 14 cents) and grew it with creativity and sweat.
Now that you’ve begun to relinquish yourself of the biggest misconceptions, let’s talk about you getting off your ass!
Questions to ask yourself and answer:
- What’s preventing me from taking action? Is it fear? Embarrassment? Responsibilities?
- Is it physically holding me down?
- Who or what created these barriers?
After you’ve asked yourself these questions, you’ve probably come to an interesting conclusion: YOU are most likely the one preventing yourself from getting off your ass. It’s the fear you’ve created or believe exists, it’s the embarrassment you think you’ll have to endure, and it’s using your responsibilities as an excuse to not take even the littlest of steps. Almost none of these barriers are physically present; you’re just imagining them in your head.
You are your greatest enemy
You are the one who is your toughest critic, your biggest competition, and your greatest enemy. Right now this is preventing you from taking action, but once you get going, it’ll be beneficial to improving yourself.
Here are some tips that will help you get off your ass:
Figure out what you want to do now, not what you want to do forever
Young people are constantly asked what they want to do with the rest of their lives. Most of them don’t have a single clue, and that’s just fine. A lot of older people don’t either. Our passions and pursuits are always evolving. But to get yourself off your ass now, you need to know what you want to do now.
Perhaps you want to become healthier, go traveling, or become a social entrepreneur. You might not want to do it when your 80 years old, but you’re willing and able to do it now, before moving onto another goal.
Stop wishing you could go back in time
Each of us has wished we could go back in time so that we could either start over or strike while the iron was hot. I have wished this with Lyved. If I had started Lyved back in 2004, when Facebook was just a baby and YouTube and other massive internet companies didn’t exist, who knows where Lyved would be currently (September 2008). Thankfully, this thought didn’t cross my mind on launch day on January 1st, 2008. It would certainly have discouraged me and kept me wishing and wasting energy on the shoulda’s, coulda’s, and woulda’s. And then, Lyved wouldn’t be where it is and where it’s headed.
You can’t go back in time, but the next best thing is the present. To get ahead tomorrow, you need to start today. The clock is ticking.
Quit the moanin’, groanin’ and complainin’
You’re wasting so much time complaining that you don’t have any money, life’s unfair, and that you’re unlucky. If you took some of the effort it takes to complain and put it toward something good, you’d be amazed at the results.
I’m sorry to say it, but no one really cares what you’re complaining about. If you want something accomplished, you must do it yourself.
Tick… tock… The clock hands are still moving.
Turn your frustrations into something beneficial
If you’re complaining, then something is frustrating you. The best thing to do is use that frustration to empower you. Difficult times and circumstances can either force someone to give up, if they’re weak, or for the strong, it’ll fuel their fire.
A few things to remember:
- No one is going to rescue you. As the mother of Chris Gardner, the rags-to-riches millionaire and author of The Pursuit of Happyness, instilled in her son: “The cavalry ain’t coming.”
- YOU are the one who is preventing you from success. And you hold the key to living the life you desire. You just have to unlock the door.
- The clock is ticking. Tick… tock…
The G.O.Y.A. (getting off your ass) Checklist
Before you can get off your ass, there are a few requirements you need. They aren’t difficult, and anyone can find them, no matter what age, race, or how much you have in your bank account.
[ ] Passion – If you don’t have passion for whatever it is you’re doing, you’re likely to fall right back on your butt.
[ ] Positivity & a sense of humor
[ ] Beneficial friends – You need to have friends who will help you rise when you fall, not ones who are sitting on their own asses.
[ ] A model – Not Tyra Banks or Kate Moss, but someone who has achieved what you desire. Read everything about them, listen to them, and model yourself like them. Never steal ideas or try to be someone else, but take your model’s successful elements and add them to yours while you retain your own uniqueness and blaze your own trails.
[ ] Knowledge & openness – You need to take the time to open up yourself and open a book or two. You’re going to learn a lot along the way, but it doesn’t hurt to get your feet wet as well. And openness and curiosity is important to learning and progress.
[ ] A smile – You’d be surprised at how far it’ll get you.
[ ] Focus
[ ] A strong will
[ ] A past failure – Why? To motivate your ass to never taste defeat like that again.