The art of getting off your ass
What do you think is the single most important element to getting things done, living the life you want, and accomplishing goals? It’s ACTION. It’s getting off your ass and going for it!
You can dream, you can talk, and you can plan; but nothing is going to happen until you take that first step. It’s the difference between a sayer and a doer. It’s the difference between change and remaining the same. And most importantly it’s the difference between living your life the way you want and being forced to live it in another way.
Firstly, you need to throw out the many misconceptions that you’ve grown to believe over the years.
Secrets – There are absolutely no secrets that pertain to accomplishing goals, achieving success, or living the life you desire. You know that it takes persistence, patience, hard work, positivity, passion, and focus. Most people just want to deny this fact and rather pursue finding the easy way out.
Time – Time can be very discouraging and can create its own misconceptions. There’s always seemingly overnight success stories that make people believe they can take one step toward success and the next day they’ll be rich and famous. But these stories leave out the parts about all the frustrations and the hard work that went into the successful result. They leave it out because no one wants to read it.
The other common misconception relating to time is that accomplishing goals and change takes a long time. It may seem like a contradiction to what was just stated. It doesn’t happen over night but it needn’t take long either.
Money – I’ve said it a thousand times and I’ll keep saying it: you do not need a lot of money to turn your dreams into reality and become successful.
Now that you’ve relinquished yourself of the biggest misconceptions, let’s talk about you getting off your ass.
Questions to ask yourself and answer:
- What’s preventing me from taking action? Is it fear? Embarrassment?
- Is it physically holding me down?
- Who created these barriers?
After you’ve asked yourself these questions; you’ve probably come to an interesting conclusion. YOU are the one preventing yourself from getting off your behind. It’s the fear you’ve created and it’s the embarrassment you think you’ll have to endure. Almost none of these barriers are physically present; you’re just imagining them in your head.
You are your greatest enemy
You are the one who is your toughest critic; your biggest competition; and your greatest enemy. Right now this is preventing you from taking action but once you get going, it’ll beneficial for improving yourself.
Here are some tips that will help you get off your ass and onto your feet.
Figure out what you want to do now; not what you want to do forever
Young people are constantly asked what they want to do with the rest of their lives. Most of them don’t have a single clue; and that’s just fine. A lot of older people don’t either. Our passions and pursuits are always evolving. But to get yourself off your ass now; you need to know what you want to do now.
Perhaps you want to become healthier, go traveling, or become a social entrepreneur. You might not want to do it when your 80 years old but you’re willing and able to do it now.
Stop wishing you could go back in time
Each of us has wished we could go back in time so that we could either start over or strike while the iron was hot. I have wished this with Lyved. If I had started this blog back in 2004 when blogs were just taking off, this site would already be a full time business. I was too busy chasing the get-rich-quick ideas. Thankfully this thought didn’t cross my mind on launch day. It would have certainly have discouraged me and kept me wishing and wasting energy on the shoulda’s, coulda’s, and woulda’s.
You can’t go back in time, but the next best thing is now. To get ahead tomorrow, you need to start today. The clock is ticking.
Tick… tock…
Quit the moanin’, groanin’ and complainin’
You’re wasting so much time complaining that you don’t have any money, life’s unfair, and that you’re unlucky. If you took some of the effort it takes to complain and put it towards something good, you’d be amazed at the results.
I’m sorry to say it but no one really cares what you’re complaining about. If you want something done, you MUST do it yourself.
Tick… tock… The clock hands are still moving.
Turn your frustrations into something beneficial
If you’re complaining then something is frustrating you. The best thing to do is use that frustration to empower you. Difficult times and circumstances can either force someone to give up, if they’re weak; or for the strong, it’ll fuel their fire.
A few things to remember:
- No one is going to rescue you; not even the government.
- YOU are the one who is preventing you from success. And you hold the key to living the life you desire. You just have to unlock the door.
- The clock is ticking. Tick… tock…
The G.O.Y.A. (getting off your ass) Checklist
Before you can get off your ass and onto your feet, there are a few requirements necessary to do so. They aren’t difficult, and anyone can find them; no matter what age, race, or how much you have in your bank account.
[ ] Passion – If you don’t have passion for whatever it is you’re doing, you’re likely to fall right back on your butt.
[ ] Positivity & a sense of humor
[ ] Beneficial friends – You need to have friends who will help you rise when you fall; not ones who are sitting on their own asses.
[ ] A model – Not Tyra Banks or Kate Moss, but someone who has achieved what you want to. Read everything about them, listen to them, and model your mind like theirs. You must retain your own uniqueness as well, never steal ideas, or try to be someone else.
[ ] Knowledge & intrigued – You need to take the time to open yourself and open a book or two. You’re going to learn a lot along the way, but it doesn’t hurt to get your feet wet as well.
[ ] A smile – You’d be surprised at how far it’ll get you.
[ ] Focus
[ ] A strong will
[ ] A past failure – Why? To motivate your ass to never taste defeat like that again.
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I love this! Sometimes we really just need that extra push (this article) to get off our comfortable butt!
I agree with all your points except the one about complaints. I used to be hardcore against complaining… but if you use complaining to let out your frustrations, kind of like a kid has a fit, then you will feel better and get over it faster. Then you can get back to taking real action! Of course this type of complaining is different than what most people do, and it should be taken to the extreme: really put your heart into the whining, cry if you must, and then pick yourself up and put a smile on your face. You’re over it!
Glad you liked it! And you make a great point about complaining. Thanks for your input.
-Andrew
I love this article drewsef.
LOL Thanks Don!
You would think that the value of taking action is a no-brainer, but it seems that many people have no idea of just how powerful they can be if they just begin taking actions toward their goals.
It is truly amazing at how fast you can build something of value.
Action is so powerful that it can be scary because actions generate opportunities that require you to commit. That is another reason why so many people avoid action.
But if you are committed; if you really do want what you say you want, then act on the advice in this article. It really does work, and it really is that simple.
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You’re very right John, action does bring so many more opportunities to you. Gary Player, a golfer; said it best, “The harder you work, the luckier you get.”
-Andrew
Whoa, so glad I discovered this site. I love it!
Thanks Jennifer! Glad you like it so much. Look forward to seeing you around.
-Andrew
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Finally, a REAL article about what it takes to be successful. As a self-published children’s book author I have been faced with every challenge and closed door you can imagine. I have been frustrated and discouraged countless times, but it has never occurred to me to quit. I refuse to fail. Have you heard that saying, “Winners never quit and quitters never win?” My Mother pushed that on me daily growing up.
You are right, there are no secrets to success. Every day I see TV commercials, hear radio ads and read articles about quick, miracle weight loss. I find it shocking that millions of people buy into the endless gimmicks. In the mean time I live by my humorous mantra “Move Your Ass, and Shut your Pie Hole.” I work out rigorously every day at home and eat healthy foods in healthy volumes. This is guaranteed to work 100% of the time. No pills, no sucking out the fat with surgery, no diets, no special equipment. Hard work, and self-control is the ONLY answer. After a while, it really doesn’t seem like hard work at all.
Thank you for your wise words. I will read them often to remind me that I need to keep on plugging along.
Hey Debbie,
I love this saying “Winners never quit and quitters never win?” and this one too “Move Your Ass, and Shut your Pie Hole.”
I was just thinking the other day how all these fake infomercial products are still bought by millions of people. I guess a lot are in denial and just want to quick way to success.
Glad you liked this article! And thanks for the compliments.
-Andrew
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Hey Andrew,
Great post and what a great blog I must say.
I wish I stumbled this blog earlier, but just as you suggested in this post, I will definitely get off my ass now
Hey Mustafa,
Thanks so much for the compliments! It’s better late than never to have you around
-Andrew
I can’t remember where I heard this, but “It’s time to get busy living or get busy dying.” Even the outlaw Jose Wales chose life.
“Get busy living or get busy dying” is from The Shawshank Redemption. I just watched last week
-Andrew
Sometimes it comes down to….do what?
Wow! Thank you! I always wanted to write in my site something like that. Can I take part of your post to my blog?
Sure! Just link to this site.
oh i’m gonna need the checklist.
thx.
Hey robb – yeah the checklist works well.
-Andrew
Thank you for this great info. I will share it with my associates!
Katina Jacskon
President/CEO
K.Jackson and Associates, Inc.
THANK YOU!
This is super amazingly legit!
& I love the quote:
-“Move Your Ass, and Shut your Pie Hole.”
And again, thank you for all of this!
P.S.- Have you ever thought of creating a magazine? I’m sure it will become international! (Just think of it), because if you make books (k cool but what about non readers?) …u get me? alright, I’ll be checking this (website) soon!
This article should be in the link Home!!
(Don’t ya think?)
Plus it took me a long time to find this… I’ve been reading this website since a week ago and I just found this one…
Alrighty
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Hi,
You’re very welcome. I’m glad you’re finding many posts enjoyable.
- Have you ever thought of creating a magazine? I’m sure it will become international! (Just think of it), because if you make books (k cool but what about non readers?) …u get me? alright, I’ll be checking this (website) soon!
Yes, I have thought of creating a print magazine but the industry is having a very tough time. Most magazine publishers are turning to the internet. And I prefer to work online. It’s easier to reach a lot of people in a quicker amount of time. But I will still consider it in the future.
- This article should be in the link Home!! (Don’t ya think?) Plus it took me a long time to find this… I’ve been reading this website since a week ago and I just found this one…
The sidebar that lists the popular articles has a limit of 11 and it’s automatically chosen based on how many comments an article has. We also have a most popular article page that lists many more posts such as this one. Please visit it here: http://www.lyved.com/most-popular/
Thanks again for your comments, concerns, and encouragement.
-Andrew
You have done a commendable task in clubbing so many vital points in this write-up. Of course, what stops us is mainly our mental inhibition, which incidentally is our own creation.That is to say, WE are our WORST enemies.
Of course, ACTION is the key word. No mental frame-work, however positive, and no learning, expertise or wisdom will get us any results until these get tagged with the all-important ACTION. As someone said, Vision without ACTION is more like a hallucination.
Someone above commented about your point of COMPLAINING. He may have a point; but confining this act (of complaining) within the prescribed limits is tough. It often tends to trespass and intrudes the region of SELF PITY…. something that inevitably spells our doom. Till we are strong enough to deny any pity to ourselves, we will not be able to stretch our physical stamina out somewhere near the fullest. For if I am the culprit, I am my defending lawyer and I am the megistrate; it is very unlikely that I am going to find myself culprit in any case – be it inactivity or self-created hurdles or lack of genuine purpose & sincerity in my efforts. One always has thousand and one reasons for NOT DOING A THING…….. and all of these may look genuine enough. So, I go with you in including COMPLAINING, GROANING AND MOANING in the ban list.
Hi H.S.
I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you for the compliments.
You’re very right, we are our own worst enemies. It might sound frustrating but once we realize this it can help us get over a lot of obstacles.
Thanks again for writing in!
-Andrew
I have an invention that I’ve been working on for the past year and I just let all of my other problems get in the way. You know, i’m gonna get off of my ass today. I love this. If it’s a go, I will have to send you a check. Thanks
Hi John,
Glad you loved this article! Best wishes with the invention. I used to to invent a lot and hope to get back into sometime in the future. It’s a lot of fun.
-Andrew
Just to preface this post in hopes of changing the reader’s mentality to a more conducive one: I am a pragmatist, so please do not pick apart this post for its written imperfections. It is simply meant to communicate, if it does that eloquently at times, then great. Otherwise, please try just to understand the point being conveyed is not only from logical analysis, but is in large part provoked by emotions that have culminated for a long time.
I am experiencing problems with work inhibition. Not conceptually, but something deep and inculcated. I find that there is a profusion of “self help” literature, almost all of it out of proportion to the amount of people it actually helps. I think humans are intelligent enough to intuit the limiting factors in their own lives, without having to be told. Personal insights, strategies, tactics, etc are essentially useless if you don’t already have momentum in your life; by this I mean without much distinction: “willpower,” “fortitude,” etc. I have a leather journal with the engraved words “carpe diem.” I have owned this journal for 6 years and counting…, now I am nineteen years of age. It is essentially a tome of “personal insights” akin to many successful Self Help books. Ultimately, though, it has led to not an iota of consistent and positive change in my life. This is not a post deploring Andrew’s advice, so if you can look back in time from a successful life and truly say that his words changed your life for the better, then more power to you… anomaly.
In thinking all this I stand for those, despite their passion, mental efforts, and short-lived successes, have ultimately been unsuccessful in cultivating consistent, positive change. Life is cruel and is not about to favor anyone’s chances through some misplaced notion of fairness. Perhaps freewill is just an illusion by which the successful gloat and the unsuccessful weep. I am happy –even if I am ambivalent about my actual ability to change. I still hold onto the notions set forth by Andrew, myself, and Self Help literature in general, however homogeneous and superficially flavored. In the end, the truth didn’t really matter. What mattered is that I had something to aspire to, something to dream, something to carve small, albeit transient, successes for my namesake and memory.
In saying this, I wanted to challenge the pretension by which the successful willingly label others as failures. But I also applaud the successful for what I and others could not attain, at least under the notion that I’m wrong about freewill. But if I am, I wouldn’t know what to think anyways. I respect you Andrew, alongside everyone. If there were opportunity egalitarianism, I’m sure I’d be just as jealous and bitter of those who became more successful than me, as I infrequently am in this utterly imbalanced, but real, world.
namaste’ _/\_,
-io
Hi “immovable object”
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.
It’s very true that it comes down to the person. That it’s up to them to take action. They could read a million personal development books, but they still have to put those words into action.
However, I firmly believe that words can change someone and even the world. When words make the reader think differently than they’ve ever thought before, that’s real change. If this wasn’t true, I don’t think books would be as powerful a medium.
-Andrew
Do you have this in pill form?
I was most impressed with your web site. Once I looked at your profile and read about your experiences I was even more impressed. To have come from such a background and to have survived let alone thrived is a great accomplishment and a testament to your strength and good will.
I can relate to your feeling about your father as I have come to you from the other end. If my children thrive as well as you seem to have then I would be very happy. I am sorry your mother had to endure such hardship and it was well of you to take the mantle of manhood in your household at such an early age. Sometimes it just works out that way. (See “Angela’s Ashes” by Frank McCourt).
G-d Bless you.
Hi Bruces,
Thank you so much for your kind words! I appreciate you taking the time to check out my site and read about me.
I’m certainly not perfect but I’m working hard to be better and better, and leave a positive impact on the world. My tough beginning in life has been an amazing motivator for me.
I’ve heard about Angela’s Ashes before but I never got a chance to read it. I’ll have to check it out.
Thanks again for the compliments and for writing in.
Best wishes,
-Andrew
I really like your article and it is helping me get the fog off my brain and move forward anyway. I have a question about your checklist- What if you are missing one of the elements on the list? I don’t really have friends who will help me get up when I fall. I feel very alone in my pursuits. Is there a substitute for that?
Hi Rachel – Glad this is helping you! For substitutes for friends, perhaps you could look to writers and other blogs like this site. So often you can relate to a writer at a time when you need it most. I would look at past writers like Walt Whitman and Henry David Thoreau. When I read work by them I feel a close connection to them and they acknowledge their flaws and failures but know how to work at them and the reader can learn from that. Also, on different blogs you can often interact with readers and writers and I’m sure they’ll give you a boost if they’re a positive site.
Hope that gives you some ideas Rachel!
Thanks for writing in.
Sincerely,
-Andrew